tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post3976430118332196943..comments2018-11-06T08:01:20.420-08:00Comments on Holy Word: Delicious: Dungeons Are HardMinstrelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12065427413307217086noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-58141364068766485992012-05-05T08:02:24.898-07:002012-05-05T08:02:24.898-07:00Honestly, this seems to be a more common situation...Honestly, this seems to be a more common situation these days. I know many people who will go into a battleground and whether they're good or not will get chewed a new one. Mention a dungeon for an upgrade and unless it's a guild run (or at least the person asking is going) then no way.<br /><br />Through analysis, I would suggest this is because of two reasons. The first, is that such talk is more or less commonplace in battlgrounds and again it's regardless of your skill level. Dungeons, not always.<br /><br />More importantly, and you touched on it, the fear of not being a good player. To that I say, run dungeons. Run them at low level on alt at first if you need to. There's a good portion of instances in this game that have no impact whether you're a good or great player. They involve just not doing anything truly stupid, or griefing. Most players concerned about dungeons aren't the type to do the things that cause failure. It's the arrogant ones that want to down the dungeon in under 5 minutes who cause the problem. Sure, they'll try to blame you but the fact is that's just not the case. <br /><br />So go, perform your role to the best of your ability and when in doubt fall back on "this is my first time here so any details along the way are much appreciated." Even when you have jerk groups there's usually at least one person in the party who will help you out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-19906903161954876522012-05-04T08:22:59.922-07:002012-05-04T08:22:59.922-07:00Thank you for reading it. :)Thank you for reading it. :)Minstrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12065427413307217086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-24755920223583076142012-05-04T08:17:12.679-07:002012-05-04T08:17:12.679-07:00Fellow introvert here, thank you for this post!Fellow introvert here, thank you for this post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-18664389267678556982012-05-03T09:12:05.659-07:002012-05-03T09:12:05.659-07:00Yeah, that's exactly my approach, too. Some gr...Yeah, that's exactly my approach, too. Some groups are friendly enough that, at least for a while, it doesn't feel too draining to remain with them. So in those rare cases, where I actively like the people I just ran with, I can re-queue.Minstrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12065427413307217086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-81857671519466481272012-05-03T09:03:54.018-07:002012-05-03T09:03:54.018-07:00You've made perfect sense. All those MBTI and...You've made perfect sense. All those MBTI and like tests give the definitions of introversion and extroversion not as how you behave around people, but as whether being around people is energy-giving or energy-draining. Grouping as an introvert can be extremely draining, especially if you are working to maintain a friendly and approachable persona. Don't make yourself feel worse by politely absenting yourself after a nice run. You need it, and it's okay.<br /><br />Personally, I don't requeue unless it's a supremely friendly, excellent group because I find the social pressure too difficult too.Kialessehttp://sisterhoodofkia.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-33673024367751821832012-05-02T09:47:50.278-07:002012-05-02T09:47:50.278-07:00I certainly don't think there's anything w...I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with preferring "safety" with those you already know and like. Sometimes you're up for putting out the effort of the social presence of strangers, sometimes you want something more relaxing.Minstrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12065427413307217086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-45067427661477190872012-05-02T09:29:54.808-07:002012-05-02T09:29:54.808-07:00Your post really speaks to me. I have very much be...Your post really speaks to me. I have very much become an introvert in the past 6 or so years. I've even been told that if I don't watch myself, I could end up becoming an agoraphobic which is frightening in and of itself. I have to force myself to want to be social and even then, sometimes, I just to it because it's what's expected and not what I want. <br /><br />I queued up for random heroics last night and while I felt satisfied with completing them (two were new to me) I closed the day with a raging headache from the stress of having to "perform" in the group and anticipating how everyone else would react if we wiped, etc. <br /><br />I like the safe group myself which almost always includes my husband as a healer. I'm not so sure there's anything wrong with that either.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06760834047864895411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-64779878763478952632012-05-02T08:14:09.686-07:002012-05-02T08:14:09.686-07:00I totally understand how you feel. I can still rem...I totally understand how you feel. I can still remember how long it took me to use the random dungeon finder tool for the first time, when it was introduced. I kept bringing up the screen to queue and staring at the button, willing myself to click it...and then after several minutes of that, I'd close the screen. Took a month before I could win that contest of wills with myself.<br /><br />I think it might be easier to fake it outside the game also because you have much more expectation of how people are going to act. Outbursts that are routine online you'd only see in real life from someone suffering from Tourette Syndrome or some kind of psychosis. ;) Anonymity really makes social interactions dicier, which increases the social cost a lot, IMO.Minstrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12065427413307217086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8262938438589544870.post-22367354985574890802012-05-02T07:41:20.495-07:002012-05-02T07:41:20.495-07:00This is why I rarely run dungeons these days. Havi...This is why I rarely run dungeons these days. Having lost the safety net of a guild who knew me and who I felt reasonably comfortable with, I find running with randoms really hard. I think it's because deep down, I feel as if I'm terrible at the game. That at any second someone is going to realise what a fraud I am and start pointing fingers.<br /><br />Which considering I have zero problem doing random battlegrounds is strange even I have to admit. Perhaps it's because I feel it's harder to apportion blame in the chaotic frenzy which is pvp, especially of the random variety or that I blend in easier. <br /><br />When my husband played a tank, I actually used to make him two man heroics with me. It might have taken a bit longer and have a few sticky moments but at least I felt safe. <br /><br />Not sure why, but I find faking it outside the internet to far easier. Maybe because on-line, our avatars are expressionless and it's our actions/words that count. I keep telling myself that this expansion it's going to be different, but it never is.Erinyshttp://harpysnest.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com